You are a Bette -- "I must be strong"

Bettes are direct, self-reliant, self-confident, and protective. (the only line that I don't agree with xD)


How to Get Along with Me

* * Stand up for yourself... and me.
* * Be confident, strong, and direct.
* * Don't gossip about me or betray my trust.
* * Be vulnerable and share your feelings. See and acknowledge my tender, vulnerable side.
* * Give me space to be alone.
* * Acknowledge the contributions I make, but don't flatter me. (cause then I'll argue)
* * I often speak in an assertive way. Don't automatically assume it's a personal attack.
* * When I scream, curse, and stomp around, try to remember that's just the way I am.




What I Like About Being a Bette

* * being independent and self-reliant
* * being able to take charge and meet challenges head on
* * being courageous, straightforward, and honest
* * getting all the enjoyment I can out of life
* * supporting, empowering, and protecting those close to me
* * upholding just causes




What's Hard About Being a Bette

* * overwhelming people with my bluntness; scaring them away when I don't intend to
* * being restless and impatient with others' incompetence
* * sticking my neck out for people and receiving no appreciation for it
* * never forgetting injuries or injustices
* * putting too much pressure on myself
* * getting high blood pressure when people don't obey the rules or when things don't go right




Bettes as Children Often

* * are independent; have an inner strength and a fighting spirit
* * are sometimes loners
* * seize control so they won't be controlled
* * figure out others' weaknesses
* * attack verbally or physically when provoked
* * take charge in the family because they perceive themselves as the strongest, or grow up in difficult or abusive surroundings




Bettes as Parents

* * are often loyal, caring, involved, and devoted
* * are sometimes overprotective
* * can be demanding, controlling, and rigid